What are little boys made of?
Frogs and snails,
And puppy dog tails;
That’s what little boys are made of.
What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice,
And all things nice;
That’s what little girls are made of.
Mother Goose
In spite of Mother Goose’s ancient wisdom about the
difference between girls and boys, the role of women in most societies has been
and continues to be suppressed. For a long time, I have felt that we would be
better off if we defied custom and put women in charge instead of men.
This is another opinion that I share
with my cousin and friend, Steve, and I’m afraid recent geopolitical
tensions are about to again prove us right. Just look at all the wars going on
now, all started and perpetuated by men. Look at the societies with oppressive
governments in Afghanistan, North Korea, Syria, Sudan, Somalia, all run by men,
and all of which suppress women’s rights.
I think most of us in the US think of ourselves as open
minded, with modern, progressive views, but the Fourteenth Amendment to the
Constitution, the Equal Protection Amendment, passed after the Civil War in
1868, didn’t apply to women, or to Native Americans, by the way. Women didn’t
get the right to vote until 1920, when the Nineteenth Amendment was ratified,
after much demonstrating, imprisonment, and hunger strikes by advocates. The
Equal Rights amendment, specifically giving equal rights to women, proposed in
1923, and again in 1971, was never ratified.
Throughout the years, prevailing opinion (especially
among men) has been that women’s place was in the home, caring for the
children, keeping the house clean, and their husbands happy. It was not until
the year 2000 that the woman’s pledge to obey her husband was taken out of the
marriage vows in the Anglican prayer book.
A common belief has been that women are not as smart as
men, that they don’t think logically, and that their opinions are often driven
by emotions. As recently as 2006, Laurence Summers was fired as president of
Harvard University, for a comment that women were not as good in science and
math as men. The latest president of Harvard was a woman. During the 19th
century, “scientific” theories were advanced claiming that women are not as
smart as men because their brains are smaller. It was later shown that brain
size in humans is just proportional to body size, and has nothing to do with
intelligence.
It's a well known fact that girls tend to do better in
school than boys, at least through high school. 70% of high school valedictorians
are female. Then several things happen:
hormones kick in, people start asking girls when they’re going to get married,
and boys what they’re going to do when they grow up. This steers girls into
having babies and getting married, not necessarily in that order. And it steers
boys into choosing a career, or at least finding a way to make money.
The social pressures directing girls and boys in
different directions are strong, starting at birth, when parents get girls
pretty dresses and dolls, and boys cowboy hats and baseball bats. But there’s
more to it than that. Girls have to face the real responsibility of having
babies and caring for them. This makes them out of necessity more responsible,
regardless of their interests or talents. And boys, boys have testosterone,
which makes them more aggressive, makes them want sex and adventure, and less
responsibility.
Male and female roles are not just the
result of social customs, they have evolved over the millennia. They enable
women to bear children and to care for them, so women are naturally more
empathetic, and nurturing, which serves to hold the family together.
Men on the other hand, like males of other species,
have evolved to fight to protect the family from predators, and other males. As
a result they had to be competitive, possessive, and impulsive.
In my opinion these evolved differences are no longer
useful. There are no longer lions and wolves lurking in the forest to carry
away your children. Men no longer have to eke out a living by clearing the
forest and plowing fields by hand. Women no longer have to make their own
clothing, churn butter and cook dinner over an open fire.
Throughout the ages women have had to fight against
social expectations and prejudices, and at the same time shoulder the real
burdens of caring for children and family. When my aunt graduated from law
school in the 30’s she had to take a job as a secretary because no one would
hire her as an attorney. She and my uncle divorced, and she had to give up custody
of their son to him, since he had remarried and had a wife to care for his
family. She later worked as a teacher,
served time in the Army, and finally worked as a clerk for a judge. My uncle,
on the other hand, became a successful trial attorney, and later a district
judge.
Times have changed though, just in my
life time. When I was a child, women were expected to stay home with the
children. Those who worked were looked on as taking jobs away from men who were
responsible for supporting a family. My own mother quit her job when she
married my dad for this reason. She learned to play solitaire to fight the
boredom.
Now women have birth control so they
can choose when or whether to have children, and they constitute a large part
of the work force. When I went to med school there were only three women in my
class of 100 students. Now they make up 55%. The numbers in law
school are similar. Since 1970 the proportion of women with college degrees has
increased from 8 to 39% surpassing males, which have increased from 14 to 36%
during the same period. More and more women occupy leadership positions in
corporations, and many have even become heads of state.
Okay, so why should they be in charge?
First of all, women are risk averse. It’s a well known
fact that women are better investors than men, because they are less likely to
take chances by investing in a volatile stock. Also they tend to be less
impulsive, looking at the big picture, pursuing long term goals.
Next, women are less aggressive, less confrontational
and controlling. 80% of violent crime is committed by men. Men more likely to
commit murder, domestic violence, gang or drug related violence and robbery. A
2008 review published in the journal Violence and Victims found
that although less serious situation violence or altercation was equal for both
genders, more serious and violent abuse was perpetrated by men. It was also
found that women's physical violence was more likely motivated by self-defense
or fear, while men's was motivated by control.
Furthermore women are better problem solvers than men.
They are more likely to see both sides of an issue, and to use negotiation and
compromise to solve problems rather than competition and power. And they are
better at multitasking, since they usually do the bulk of child-care, cleaning,
cooking, scheduling, and transportation for the family.
So who would you rather work for, someone who strives
to understand your point of view and gives you a chance to try out your ideas,
or a boss who tells you it’s his way or the highway? Who would you rather trust
your savings to, a broker who wants to put your money into a company he
believes to be the next Amazon, or one who prefers to spread your investments
out among government bonds and stocks with long record of stability and safe
dividends?
And finally, who would you rather lead your country, someone
who fights for dominance over his political rivals, who enters conflicts with
other countries to show power, and who persists in wars to save face, or
someone who settles differences with other leaders by negotiation and
compromise, and whose goal in both domestic and foreign policy is to minimize
hardship and suffering, and to reach solutions that are mutually beneficial to all
parties.